Cannot host new game

My problem is 2 fold.
first some stats:
Win 7 64-bit.
SLI nvidia 9800gtx+
AMD Athlon 64 X2 6400+
4GB Ram
Ok so I am able to join my bro's game when he hosts (although there are times when he creates the match and it doesnt show up --whats with that?)
But if i click on host a custom game nothing happens. I cannot click on the main page and i can see that the new game window is generated (by looking at the bar at the bottom of the screen in windows 7) but i cant get it to take focus. I tried clicking on its icon window at the bottom of the screen and nothing. I tried right clicking on that minature window and minimize and restore, still nothing.
Why can I not host?

Thanks.|||i9ts casue either your game is out of date or gpgnet is not to latest
http://www.obliteratingwave.com/Space_S ... .5.225.zip ~ gpgnet
http://www.obliteratingwave.com/Supreme ... 1.3280.exe - Supreme commander
http://www.obliteratingwave.com/Supreme ... 5.3599.exe - Forged alliacne